My Life With The Wave is about a man who takes home a wave from the ocean. I think his relationship with the wave can be compared to the relationship of a man and woman. At first he “meets” the wave in the ocean and as he is walking away he feels the other waves “staring” at him. This could be because he is taking the water away from where it should be, but the wave wanted to go like a woman who wants only what she wants and won’t listen to anyone.
When the man gets on the train he realizes he has a secret that he cannot tell anyone and tries to hide the wave, which will eventually lead him to distancing himself from the life he has. He looks at the wave as a “trouble” and ends up going to jail because of the wave. When he goes to jail, this could be looked at as being imprisoned by love. If you love something or someone so dearly, you will take all the good and bad and face the consequences of the love you have. When the warden tells him that he must be careful next time, this could mean be careful when you love because you can put everything out on the line for someone and get hurt in the end. The man looks at the wave as being human but it is clear that the wave is not when it was left on the train, vaporized and found itself back to the man’s house.
The wave has thinned out but waited for his arrival. This can relate to a woman, who is a survivor and patiently waits for her man’s return. He explains life with the wave as such joy. Everything was happy and so full of color and the sun takes longer to set. That is how a relationship is, so much joy in the beginning but then someone gets unhappy, as the wave does.
At first the wave is giving him the love a woman would; kissing, hugging, whispering in his ear and all thoughts are communicated. But then the wave became violent, screaming and moaning. The wave has a personality of its own and can be compared to women’s emotions, which can go from happy to sad at any moment. When the wave complains about solitude, the man tries to please her by giving her toys but that doesn’t work so he buys her a school of fish to play with. This can be affiliated with a woman’s demands and the man tries to please her but only gets frustrated. The man cares for the wave as if she is a woman.
The man got jealous when the wave was playing with the fish and calls the fish repulsive. As if this were a woman he gets jealous and retaliates at the woman by calling her friends names. The woman then gets mad but then tries to console him. At first he gives in to her but then comes to his senses and starts to hate her. The wave does try to change, as a woman would, but the man has no desire for “her” anymore. In hating the wave, the man pursues relations with old friends.
He meets an old girlfriend and tells her about the wave. The unbelievable is now made real for a person outside of the relationship. As winter came the wave becomes un contained with her emotions. She was so cold towards him, he would feel everything freeze and it was difficult to sleep next to her. She became unhappy with the man and called him names violently. She broke everything she touched and began to physically abuse him.
He finally left and feels free when he gets out of there. When he returns after a month, he finds the wave frozen. She has sacrificed herself for a man and faces reality. Instead of becoming sad she turns to ice which will be used to chill wine, which is bringing us back to reality and is one main purpose of water.