My Life According to Me My name is Biff Loan. I had a very confusing life, now that I look back upon it. My mother, Linda was a very loving and caring person. And I have a brother, Happy also; he is a very entertaining guy.
But then we have my father, Willy. Willy always had these preconceived notions about how I was going to live my life, and how I was going to be one day. I used to try and try to work at different organizations, but Willy had already poisoned my mind, by basically telling me that I was too good for that. He in essence thought that I should have skipped the small stuff and gone right to the top. But as I’m more aware of now, that’s not how life is. But because of him every job I went to I thought I was “too good” for, when really all I had to do was give it my all and work my way up.
This is also how I felt about woman for a while too. I thought that I was too good for her and I would eventually move on and be even unhappy than I was before because I really just wanted a good relationship, with someone but because of my father I had a hard time giving of myself, because he kind of taught me to be more so self involved. But then I found my wife, Elizabeth. She was the one who taught me finally that life was not always about what you want, but you have to learn to love to love. And that was a very useful lesson for me to finally learn at this time.
Elizabeth and I have two amazing children, Nadia and Ethan. What I have tried to do with my children is teach them that on one hand you have to have big aspirations to have big things happen in your life, and to never short change yourself, and this is something that I got from my father, Willy and I tell them that. But what I also try to instill in them is that you have to start off small to have big things happen you can’t expect big things happen right away, because I feel that this is something that I learned the hard way. Now I work at an agency in Boston, I’m not the top executive yet, but I know with a little more hard work and time that in time I will come to the top. And even though my father did some bad to me, I now understand why he always pushed me to be the best. Because every time I look at my children I think of how much I want them to be successful and happy.
So I now understand how he just wanted me to be happy. My father worked really hard at trying to be a successful salesman. What I learned from my father is that I don’t think he did it for himself, in the end I really realized that he did it for his family. He just wanted us to always be happy and have everything that we could want. But in the end he ended up hurting us because he was never around and always unhappy because what he was doing wasn’t doing anything for him.
But the man really did try. And he has to be given at least that to his credit.